Thursday, September 17, 2009

What is Everyone Else Doing Today?

Does anyone remember? Does anyone care? Is everyone afraid to say anything? I don't know.

All I know is that our baby passed away a month ago today, and it's truly painful to watch everyone else going about their daily lives as though it's a regular day.

Maybe it's too much to expect for people who knew him to remember everything about him, like we who carry the moving pictures of five weeks burned in our minds forever. Maybe that's what makes us keenly aware of every day, every date, every moment on a calendar that he's not with us.

But even if you don't know what to say, say something. Rafa is our baby. He is our boy. He did exist. He does matter. And he's gone.

And the silence of those who are well-meaning and think they're sparing us pain, it's far worse to hear nothing than to know you are thinking of him, even if it's difficult.

We'd rather know you were struggling with us than without us.


  1. Just got home and found your message. Of course we're here. Some might be slow to post, but we're here and we're with you.

  2. I'm here, too. And I have you in my thoughts constantly. And I remember Rafa everyday. Much love.

  3. I am here and thinking of Rafa. I share Rafa's story with new people every day and they marvel at his strength and beauty. I am always with you.

  4. Unfortunately that is how people are...:( We lost Kasey in Dec and people act as if we should move on, or they completely avoid us. I am here and I too feel like the rest of the world moves on and I am still standing still. If you ever need to talk don't hesitate to shoot me an email or a call!


  5. I'm here too.
    But too slowly.
    I'm sorry.
    I love you & I love Rafa.